Are you a perfectionist? 

It's something I've struggled with all of my life. When I was young, I found it hard to make decisions, in case I made the wrong one. I found it difficult to commit, in case I wanted to change my mind. I wrote everything in pencil first so I could improve on it later, including my journal - how crazy is that! 

It's true that perfectionism has its place. During my years in the publishing industry, my perfectionist tendencies served me well. After all, magazines, books and financial publications need to be absolutely accurate and there is no room for error. 

I was proud to be a perfectionist.

More recently, however, I have discovered that being a perfectionist is not a badge of honour. In fact, it can be a complete hindrance, an excuse for not taking action, a word to hide behind. And it can hold you back in life, dramatically. 

I believe I've found the perfect antidote, and that is authenticity. 

When you are expressing yourself authentically there is no room for perfectionism, you can be free to say whatever you like, as long as you mean it. 

You can tell yourself that authenticity, integrity, realness are more important to your audience than appearing perfect, and your subconscious mind will be forced to believe it. 

For example, this photo is a still from one of my recent Facebook lives. And it's blurry. But does it matter? It captures my energy in that moment and feels authentically me. 

Overall, I'm feeling more focused and much more productive since making this connection. 

I would love to know if you find this insight useful. How important is authenticity to you, when making connections, friends and business associations? I know it's top of my list.